Sugar daddy dating is a topic that’s often talked down. Too many people with no experience comment on issues they’ve never been through. As someone who has had experience dating older men it’s not what the rumors make it out to be. In fact, it ended up being an investment and an outlet to new opportunities.
There might be a few terms that you don’t understand so I want to get them out the way now:
- SD means Sugar Daddy
- SB means Sugar Baby
- Donations means Payment
- Roses means Payment
Commonly thought of assumptions that come to mind when dating older men are:
- Do I have to sleep with him?
- Will I get paid the first night we meet?
- Do I charge him for my time?
The answer is no across the board. A genuine relationship must be built for a connection to grow. A genuine connection is only formed when you date like two normal people. You both must find each other attractive and enjoy spending time with each other. If you don’t find your SD attractive the arrangement won’t work. He’ll also know that you don’t like him even if you try to pretend just so you can use him. It still won’t work.
Benefits dating an SD
Dating a sugar daddy comes with a lot of awesome perks. Many include paid travel around the world, a set monthly income, cars, homes/condos, makeup, and accessories. But these gifts come at a price. This is where you’ll decide if it’s worth it.
Travel to new places
Pros: Traveling to countries like Germany and Barcelona all sound great especially when you don’t have to spend your own money. Travel to new vacation spots trying new foods and experiencing different cultures is a blessing to see.
Cons: Having to travel with a person you’re embarrassed by. If you are in this relationship for strictly financial reasons this is the risk, you take. If you are trying to keep it a secret when traveling and posting pictures of just yourself, be prepared to be bombarded with constant questioning of who you’re with. To avoid this don’t post at all when with your SD. Besides most SD relationships are never exclusive.
A set monthly income
Pros: The average income an SB makes sugar daddy dating is 33k a year. Some sugar daddies have a set monthly income for sugar babies as high as 10k a month, while still being gifted with other gifts in between time. I recommend saving your money and investing it. Start a business, go back to school, or buy stock.
Cons: Seeing large amounts of money flow into your account can make you buy up the entire world. Chill. Many SBs are given so much money and spend it on drugs and material things. Don’t get caught up of having money and doing nothing productive with it. It will be gone just as fast as it came.
Cars
Pros: Nice rides are always nice. Rolling around in a drop top new bens with 20-inch rims is a sight to see. Your SD will want you rolling around in nothing but the best with style and class. SD’s like to see you enjoy the gifts they shower you with and you love to accept them.
Cons: If the car you’re driving is not in your name it is not your car. Your SD will be able to take the car from you as he pleases so don’t sell your current car. If you two were to break up he’ll have every right to take it back.
Home/Condo
Pros: Living at the top of Hollywood hills is such a gorgeous site to see. If you live far from your SD, he will put you in a home or condo closer to where he lives. A big, beautiful home with hot tubs as bathtubs and living rooms like hotel lobbies. You’ll live large like a Queen, and he won’t have it any other way.
Cons: Again, if the house isn’t in your name, it’s not your house. Just because you spend the night does not mean you own the home too. Because you don’t own the home if for whatever reason your SD no longer wants to be with you (which can happen at any time) he can throw you out at any moment. Never leave your home or apartment to live with another man who doesn’t have your name added on the lease.
Clothing and Accessories
Pros: Get spoiled in the lasted fashion trends. Him spending money on what you want will never be a worry to your SD. If you want it, you got it, and he’s proud to buy it.
Cons: Knowing that you like nice things will be your SD’s upper hand in getting you to submit to things you might not want to do. Don’t let material things have this type of hold on you.
Where can I find SD’s with money?
A great place to scope out SD’s are:
- High end restaurants with bars
- Online dating apps
- Shopping in expensive cities
- Attending business seminars
How can I tell my SD is legit?
He has his own company
If you want to deal with someone with real money its someone who has a company or a few. Not the Pet Smart manager, or the restaurant manager at Ruth Chris its someone who has millions and owns the company himself. Knowing his full name and the company he owns are great tools to use for research.
Yes, you want to research the man you’re meeting up with for a date. Make sure he’s not some psycho killer, or even worse, a fraud! Nothing is worse than meeting up with someone and having your time wasted. Get the facts before driving an hour and a half to meet up.
He’s a homeowner
If he’s renting, he’s not a millionaire. Don’t sit around for another lie to come out of his month claiming he isn’t when he is. When he lies once during the beginning stages about his income and what he does for a living, get out now.
He’s a creep only looking out for himself and has never been involved in a SB arrangement. Experienced SD’s know how this works and knows that he doesn’t have to brag to prove himself, instead he simply shows you.
The type of car he drives
Expensive men have expensive taste, and they love to drive it and show it off. All established men have a nice vehicle or two that cost well over 100k. He’s not rolling around in a beat-up Toyota Camry or a Dodge Chrysler 300. Instead, is a Ferrari, Audi R8, Porsche, Benz, or Beamer. Don’t fall for the old “my cars in the shop” trick because most likely it never went because he doesn’t own one!
Final Thoughts
I’ll be honest; some SD’s are married so they’ll expect you to know your place. If you’re ok being the other woman you won’t be spending as much time with him as you would someone who is single.
Meanwhile there are some SD’s who are readily available and will try to pay you into marrying them. Make him happy and he’ll make you happy. And no, this doesn’t mean sex. You have the power to say no to anything you don’t want to do, and having a sexual relationship is one of them.
When sugar daddy dating as a SB you have wants and needs too, and they need to be known upfront. Just as much as you’ll take care of him, he needs to take care of you just the same. For my on relationships and advice read here.
