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Threesomes take a strong individual to not get their feelings hurt afterward. You must be sexually open and comfortable with your body for it not to end up in a brawl after. I’m kidding, kind of. But if you’re the jealous type it won’t work. Threesomes aren’t disgusting they’re normal and enjoyable. All sexual acts must be consensual and don’t force it! No means no.
Trying new things is daring and fun. Threesomes can add the fire you’ve been missing or put out the flame entirely. Here are the 9 rules to having your first successful threesome.
Why a threesome
What is the purpose of the threesome? Has sex gotten boring? Or do you just want to try something new? If you’re in a committed relationship threesomes are highly not recommended. The more invested you’re in the relationship the more trauma a threesome can create long-term.
Threesomes are a way to explore sexuality and try new things. And by things, I mean toys and positions, outfits, and new locations. It takes a mature individual to partake so it’s mandatory that all participating parties are 18 and over.
Choose third wisely
Picking a third through mutual friends isn’t suggested. Having a threesome with friends is a mix for disaster. More times than none, at least one person will get their feelings hurt. Avoid bringing another person into the bedroom with emotional attachment. This will prevent things from getting weird after.
To locate a third aka unicorn, a bisexual woman Tinder is a good starting point. Bumble, Facebook, and other dating apps are also popular to use. Dating apps are safer than meeting a random person at a bar when screened accordingly. Make sure the person you’re talking to is true to their identity, use Facetime, Google Duo, and Zoom for online meet-ups.
Always use protection
Use protection at all costs. Risking it all for a one-night stand isn’t worth it. With new viruses emerging and COVID_19 still not controlled, there’s a lot to learn about safety measures for sex and preventing the spread of the virus.
Meanwhile, other sexual diseases are still among us and very present. Are you on birth control? Will your new partner be if female? These are important questions that need to be discussed before meeting up. Don’t let your boyfriend double-dip if you don’t want him to. Establish sanitary health measures beforehand.
A little bit of drinking will loosen you up but don’t overdo it. Have a clear mind so no one is forgetful of the rules and agreements. Drinking liquor and doing other drugs leads to unruly behavior and a forgetful memory.
Checklist ready
Are you open to anything? If not speak up. Not everyone likes anal and not everyone gives head. Most people who have threesomes rule out kissing and cuddling. Review with your partners beforehand what sexual acts are allowed and aren’t.
Have open communication
Make sure a threesome is something you and your partner both agree on. Know what each of you is seeking to accomplish from this fantasy. If you have the slightest bit of doubt that you or your or partner aren’t 100% on board with a threesome don’t do it. A threesome shouldn’t be a selfish act, to make the other person happy. It’s a partner-based decision that shouldn’t make or break the relationship.
Know the safe code
If for whatever reason something makes you uncomfortable have a safety word in place. Maybe you thought you could handle your boyfriend sleeping with another woman in front of you, but you can’t anymore at that moment. Say a safety word that only you two know to stop. It’s completely fine to change your mind in the heart of things. You don’t know till you try.
Pick a leader
Who will make the first move when it all goes down? How awkward would it be to sit in a room staring at each other debating on how and what to do first? This is where it gets exciting. Create a plan and pick a leader to start everyone off. Don’t assume, make sure everyone’s sexual interest is peaked so the mood isn’t thrown off.
Make boundaries known
Because you didn’t sleep with a friend, you don’t have to worry about seeing this person again, or do you? If ever seeing the third alone without telling your partner things will be sketched. Set boundaries after meeting up this can include, do you want them to stay and cuddle, are all three of you waking up together? In other words, do they leave or stay? Most couples dismiss the third immediately and may reconnect for another time.
Inform the newbie
These tips are not only intended for the sake of your relationship with your partner but for the newbie too. The third party needs a say and to be informed of all tips mentioned if they’re going to participate.
If a threesome still isnt your thing but you want to surprise your partner in the bedroom read ways to impress your man and make him fall in love all over again.
