In today’s dating world it seems like we’re forced lust before trust and everything else. The dating apps seem far from what it’s supposed to be. Every other match almost always solely wants a hook up and nothing more. People are on there to promote their profiles and never write back when you match. So, what’s the point.
Do people still love anymore? The answers yes. There are people still out there who are just like you and want to fall in love, be married, and have a family.
They appear by accident not by force. Maybe the universe force but not by yours. There’s no guide in this blog post to help you find your soul mate but reading all the way through will help let you know if the guy you’re talking to wants love or lust.
He’s available
Your crush isn’t just available after hours. He’s free to grab breakfast in the morning before you go to work. He enjoys seeing a movie midday and he doesn’t go into hiding when you ask if he’s free for dinner. If late night booty calls are his thing and his thing only it’s all about the lust for this guy.
Friends and Family know you
Kicking it at the house is cool, watching a movie and having a few drinks, but is that all you ever do? Does he have siblings, does he have a lot of friends? If you don’t know, he doesn’t want you to know. He has no intentions of making these hook ups with you anything more but hookups.
He’s social
When business calls it calls. But if he’s too busy to reach out at least once throughout the day he’s hasn’t got a clue what you’re up to and doesn’t care too. It sounds harsh but be real with the situation. A guy who is into you is going to actively want to know everything about you and what you do. It’s natural. So, if you have to pull his teeth out for him to talk to you, let him go.
He listens
You can talk to that man all day but is he listening? Does he know your favorite color? Does he know your favorite food? What’s the point in telling him if he doesn’t care to remember when you tell him? Your boo is supposed to want to know these things. How else will he remember to go all out for you on proposal day.
He tries
He takes note of the little things you do and makes big ways of letting you know. A compliment about the stubborn birth mark you think you have is one of his greatest attractions to you. He doesn’t overdo it, but his subtle infatuation with you won’t come from someone lusting.
The truth hurts I know but it’s better to know then to have your time wasted. We are only getting older. If you’re seeking a man just to hook up, then do it but for those still wanting a genuine relationship with someone. You shouldn’t have to settle. Looks aren’t everything and money won’t buy you happiness. Feed your soul only what makes you smile and is worth your while. You deserve every bit of living your happiest, meaningful life.
