We’ve all had our fair share of fallouts with friends. But how often should they happen and why are they happening. Everyone is just as awesome as can be when you first meet them but what about when their behavior changes after you’ve got to know them? When shade is thrown at you, do you let it slide? What if it happens all the time? Here are 13 toxic signs of friendship you don’t want to overlook.
- You’re only wanted when they need something
In a friendship, the relationship should be equally reciprocated. If every time your friend is in trouble and you’re left running to save the day. But nowhere in sight when it’s you, you should be too. It’s not fair for you to always be available for someone who doesn’t even make you an option.
2. They always ask for money
If you have to pay your friend to be your friend, they’re not your friend, period. If your friend has you paying for them when you go out fund their expenses every time, you’ll or out, he or she isn’t after your friend. You’re their mobile atm. They’re after your pockets, not friendship.
3. Putting you down in front of others
A real friend will never embarrass you in front of your peers. When bashing you publicly in front of others this screams jealousy.
4. You feel guilty after hanging out
Stick with your gut. After hanging with friends, it should be a good vibe from beginning to end. A real friend encourages you to be your best and is always rooting for you. Debbie downers and bad energy is draining. Indulge yourself with people who uplift you and keep your spirts high.
5. He or she is in competition with you
A true friend’s goal is not to outdo you in everything you do. If your friend is ultra-competitive with activities that aren’t meant to be competed, make your exit now.
6. They hate when good things happen for you
If sharing something positive in your personal life to a friend makes them cringe when listening, that is not a friend who is happy and supportive of you. Anyone in your circle should always be proud of the good things happening to and around you.
7. They immerse you in drama
A friend should not make you enemies but instead connections with positive and inspiring people. Stay away from those who are always getting into fights with others, especially because we are far to grown for that.
8. Gossiping behind your back
It sucks to hear rumors about yourself from others that aren’t true. If a friend is gossiping about others constantly most likely they gossip about you too. A real friend will always have nothing but nice things about you with or without you around.
9. Your friendship feels like a contract
Sometimes friends can become possessive. He or she should let you be and never be jealous of your other friends.
10. Always bailing on you
You constantly schedule plans, but they always bail on you last minute. A real friend wouldn’t leave you hanging or at least give you a two-day notice if they can’t make it. They should at least have enough respect to care about the friendship in that sense.
11. Sharing your private business
It pretty embarrassing when someone who thought your secret was safe with, spreads your business-like wildfire, because the friendship was always falsified. Be careful who you vent to. Some people only get close to you to expose you.
12. Not the best influence
Drinking and getting drunk before an early shift or class is never the best thing to do. So, if your friend is constantly encouraging you to party and overdo it, its time you hang out with them less and less. Its ok to have a good time but not all the especially if it interferes with your work ethic.
13. You’re often excluded
If your friend is constantly bailing on you but making plans with others and leaving you out, stay out. A friend that comes around when they only need something is the worse kind of friend to have.
